Comments on: Walk like an Egyptian … Marry like an Egyptian http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/ The world is talking. Are you listening? Thu, 03 Dec 2009 07:19:58 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: lola http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-8/#comment-1600212 lola Sun, 15 Nov 2009 06:49:43 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1600212 I am a Filipina and I have a 34 y/o Egyptian boyfriend. We are both Christians. We have known each other for almost 5 years. I came to Egypt recently and he was with me throughout my stay. He has not visited my country though but wanted to marry me either on my next visit or when he comes to me. What papers do I need to bring with me if I chose to marry in Egypt? Need help here please. I am a Filipina and I have a 34 y/o Egyptian boyfriend. We are both Christians. We have known each other for almost 5 years. I came to Egypt recently and he was with me throughout my stay. He has not visited my country though but wanted to marry me either on my next visit or when he comes to me. What papers do I need to bring with me if I chose to marry in Egypt? Need help here please.

]]> By: Abbas http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-8/#comment-1584208 Abbas Sun, 11 Oct 2009 09:21:52 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1584208 Hello, TYeah i read her blog too. Hello,
TYeah i read her blog too.

]]> By: marie http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-8/#comment-1580715 marie Sun, 20 Sep 2009 00:50:49 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1580715 Hello I am an American Christian married to an Egyptian man. I met Amr here in the US, he had been in US for 6 years. I agree with some posts, I would advise against marrying an Egyptian that you have only known thru email, but I would advise against marrying ANY man you only know thru email. We have known some girls who have been taken advantage of. It is VERY VERY important that you meet his family-if they do not accept you FULLY, the marriage will not work. The mother is very important in the Muslim world, make sure your relationship with her is good!! I have not and will not convert- Islam does not allow pressure to convert- but be aware that Islam is not just a religion, it is a way of life-and it is strict. Are you prepared to change the way you dress? Will your soon to be husband allow you to wear a bathing suit at the beach to swim? This may sound like a small thing but imagine not being able to go swimming ever again!! Are you prepared for the fast during Ramadan? This 30 days can put a big strain on a marriage, esp when you are not in a Muslim country. Is he okay with you having male friends? Staying out late for a girls night? Are you willing to raise your kids Muslim? Think VERY carefully before you answer this, it is not something to be taken lightly..I am lucky that I have a husband that is able to compromise on some things, and I compromise on a lot!! But be aware that Muslim men tend to get more conserative and religious as they get older esp when children come into the picture. The man you met who went to clubs and bars when you first met him WILL change after marriage- If you are both respectful of each other and able to compromise, it can work- but interfaith and interculture marriages are hard! Hello

I am an American Christian married to an Egyptian man. I met Amr here in the US, he had been in US for 6 years. I agree with some posts, I would advise against marrying an Egyptian that you have only known thru email, but I would advise against marrying ANY man you only know thru email. We have known some girls who have been taken advantage of. It is VERY VERY important that you meet his family-if they do not accept you FULLY, the marriage will not work. The mother is very important in the Muslim world, make sure your relationship with her is good!! I have not and will not convert- Islam does not allow pressure to convert- but be aware that Islam is not just a religion, it is a way of life-and it is strict. Are you prepared to change the way you dress? Will your soon to be husband allow you to wear a bathing suit at the beach to swim? This may sound like a small thing but imagine not being able to go swimming ever again!! Are you prepared for the fast during Ramadan? This 30 days can put a big strain on a marriage, esp when you are not in a Muslim country. Is he okay with you having male friends? Staying out late for a girls night? Are you willing to raise your kids Muslim? Think VERY carefully before you answer this, it is not something to be taken lightly..I am lucky that I have a husband that is able to compromise on some things, and I compromise on a lot!! But be aware that Muslim men tend to get more conserative and religious as they get older esp when children come into the picture. The man you met who went to clubs and bars when you first met him WILL change after marriage- If you are both respectful of each other and able to compromise, it can work- but interfaith and interculture marriages are hard!

]]> By: Jamillah http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-8/#comment-1572930 Jamillah Thu, 16 Jul 2009 14:01:26 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1572930 I was Penelope, but am now Jamillah. I was with Ahmed from Egy. the 23yr old who turned out to be 21. & he lied to me to get me to get him out to Australia. When his father became sick & he realized he couldnt leave his family he dropped me. I had since been back to Egypt & spent a beautiful time with a beautiful family & also, a lovely friend from Alex. The family in Egypt are Muslim & taught me so much about Islam. yes I agree that i witnessed alot of the born Muslim hypocryts. that say salam alycum, then they stab you in the back. Also, i meet so many lovely Muslim, Egyptians. I reverted to Muslim, when i was there. I had many offers of marriage while in Egypt. & alot of them where of lovely men who even asked my Egyptian family if they can marry me. Just, it's easy to get caught up in the romance of the very charming Egyptians. When i returned to Australia i have met Egyptians here, who also ask me for marriage. one is Coptic Othodox tho. He wants me to convert to christianity to be with him but at first he said that my religion doesnt matter. Yet his family wont accept me as Muslim. So, i have told him it wont work for us. He thinks i can change for hm coz i changed for a man before. Well, i changed for Allah. Ahmed opened my eyes to Islam, it was my choice to follow it. I wasnt practising christianity. For many years I was practising a combination of budism & universal love & acceptance of all. Being Muslim has opened my eyes to the truth about my beliefs & Islam is a beautiful religion. I read the book Dont Be Sad, Islamic publication, in english translation. It was one of the best books I have ever read. Next to the Qur'an in english. Not all Egyptians are bad & not all Egyptians are good. But, then, not all of anyone nomatter what religion or country they are from insures that they will be good or bad. Just we need to protect ourselves from the heartbreak & try to learn to control our emotions so that we dont get hurt. They Egyptians here arent much better. At least in Egypt they dont touch girls who cover themselves. Here they have few manners or control coz they think it is a free country & they dont have the fear of being arrested. Coz the police do arrest them. Be careful of the police too. They can be the worst. Anyway. I had a lovely time in Egypt & incha'Allah, i'll make it back there many times & maybe even choose a husband in my next visit. If i dont marry one of the Egyptians that are requesting marriage with me here in Adelaide. Oh, Egyptian Arabic is not quite the same as the Blitz Arabic. Have learnt some Egy Arabic, but, would love to learn more, please let me know of any books that have english pronounciation for arabic words. Salam Alycom & thanx to all who keep this form service going. I have missed this site. Didnt have internet in Egypt this time. love peace & happiness to all readers, love Jamillah I was Penelope, but am now Jamillah. I was with Ahmed from Egy. the 23yr old who turned out to be 21. & he lied to me to get me to get him out to Australia. When his father became sick & he realized he couldnt leave his family he dropped me. I had since been back to Egypt & spent a beautiful time with a beautiful family & also, a lovely friend from Alex. The family in Egypt are Muslim & taught me so much about Islam. yes I agree that i witnessed alot of the born Muslim hypocryts. that say salam alycum, then they stab you in the back. Also, i meet so many lovely Muslim, Egyptians. I reverted to Muslim, when i was there. I had many offers of marriage while in Egypt. & alot of them where of lovely men who even asked my Egyptian family if they can marry me. Just, it’s easy to get caught up in the romance of the very charming Egyptians. When i returned to Australia i have met Egyptians here, who also ask me for marriage. one is Coptic Othodox tho. He wants me to convert to christianity to be with him but at first he said that my religion doesnt matter. Yet his family wont accept me as Muslim. So, i have told him it wont work for us. He thinks i can change for hm coz i changed for a man before. Well, i changed for Allah. Ahmed opened my eyes to Islam, it was my choice to follow it. I wasnt practising christianity. For many years I was practising a combination of budism & universal love & acceptance of all. Being Muslim has opened my eyes to the truth about my beliefs & Islam is a beautiful religion. I read the book Dont Be Sad, Islamic publication, in english translation. It was one of the best books I have ever read. Next to the Qur’an in english. Not all Egyptians are bad & not all Egyptians are good. But, then, not all of anyone nomatter what religion or country they are from insures that they will be good or bad. Just we need to protect ourselves from the heartbreak & try to learn to control our emotions so that we dont get hurt. They Egyptians here arent much better. At least in Egypt they dont touch girls who cover themselves. Here they have few manners or control coz they think it is a free country & they dont have the fear of being arrested. Coz the police do arrest them. Be careful of the police too. They can be the worst. Anyway. I had a lovely time in Egypt & incha’Allah, i’ll make it back there many times & maybe even choose a husband in my next visit. If i dont marry one of the Egyptians that are requesting marriage with me here in Adelaide. Oh, Egyptian Arabic is not quite the same as the Blitz Arabic. Have learnt some Egy Arabic, but, would love to learn more, please let me know of any books that have english pronounciation for arabic words. Salam Alycom & thanx to all who keep this form service going. I have missed this site. Didnt have internet in Egypt this time.
love peace & happiness to all readers, love Jamillah

]]> By: kathleen http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-1/#comment-1569730 kathleen Sun, 07 Jun 2009 20:38:40 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1569730 And what was his brothers reaction? I am curious because i also am very much interested in an egyptian man. And what was his brothers reaction? I am curious because i also am very much interested in an egyptian man.

]]> By: sara http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-8/#comment-1566857 sara Tue, 12 May 2009 13:39:41 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1566857 my msn address is sara-sidle@hotmail.com i would welcome any help and any advice thanx my msn address is
sara-sidle@hotmail.com i would welcome any help and any advice thanx

]]> By: sara http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-2/#comment-1566856 sara Tue, 12 May 2009 13:34:38 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1566856 i have to met a man from egypt.We have chattes almost every day sometimes for more than 6 hrs.I have fallen for his respect and nature towRDS ME.he says he loves me and i believe him.I will fly to egypt in nov and meet.How can we trust these men after reading so many negatives? Surley they wouldnt waste there time for so long with some 1 that isnt that financially secure........would they? He has never been disrespectful,but many egyption men have,and never talked in a sexual way as they have strong beliefs.I ask please for any help and support i can get as im in australia and now feel slightly foolish and confused. thanx i have to met a man from egypt.We have chattes almost every day sometimes for more than 6 hrs.I have fallen for his respect and nature towRDS ME.he says he loves me and i believe him.I will fly to egypt in nov and meet.How can we trust these men after reading so many negatives? Surley they wouldnt waste there time for so long with some 1 that isnt that financially secure……..would they? He has never been disrespectful,but many egyption men have,and never talked in a sexual way as they have strong beliefs.I ask please for any help and support i can get as im in australia and now feel slightly foolish and confused. thanx

]]> By: BamBina http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-8/#comment-1564216 BamBina Wed, 22 Apr 2009 22:46:13 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1564216 Do you know of other egyptian girls in canada wanting to marry or have married non arab guys? I am in this situation and would appreciate to talking to someone in the same situation. Nada Do you know of other egyptian girls in canada wanting to marry or have married non arab guys? I am in this situation and would appreciate to talking to someone in the same situation.

Nada

]]> By: Ahmed http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-8/#comment-1561422 Ahmed Thu, 02 Apr 2009 11:45:30 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1561422 There words just come out of a Feminist mouth. that's all i can say. Egyptian girls are happy like this, they live their normal lifes and they have their own choices. Don't Ever Compare Egyptian girls to others. There words just come out of a Feminist mouth.
that’s all i can say. Egyptian girls are happy like this, they live their normal lifes and they have their own choices. Don’t Ever Compare Egyptian girls to others.

]]> By: Penelope http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-8/#comment-1548947 Penelope Wed, 28 Jan 2009 05:11:06 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1548947 Hi Nalalos, I am sure in your heart he is. And i am sure in your heart he will stay. Just try to make it easy to be away from eachother as much as you can. It is hard to be away from the one you love. Think that we are here for you. I will be in Cairo mid Feb. so maybe we can meet up & chat in person. I am sure he loves you so much. It's alot for him to go through & he is keeping up the fight for you. The success of your relationship is in my prayers. Destiny doesnt change it's course. Hey Precious, Love to you & your family, Cheers Penelope aka Gamilla Hi Nalalos, I am sure in your heart he is. And i am sure in your heart he will stay. Just try to make it easy to be away from eachother as much as you can. It is hard to be away from the one you love. Think that we are here for you. I will be in Cairo mid Feb. so maybe we can meet up & chat in person. I am sure he loves you so much. It’s alot for him to go through & he is keeping up the fight for you. The success of your relationship is in my prayers. Destiny doesnt change it’s course. Hey Precious, Love to you & your family, Cheers Penelope aka Gamilla

]]> By: Nalalos http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-8/#comment-1548865 Nalalos Tue, 27 Jan 2009 18:58:41 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1548865 Dear all i miss listening to ur stories it has been a long time since i saw any post, i know that every body seems to be busy but i would like to listen to ur news, i would like to tell u that me and my friend are fine and really he is so sweet as he doesnt make me feel that i am lonely, he is always supporting me even he is thousands miles away, i really miss him so much and i hope that i will work for us that he is away and we still feel tha we are together, about u all let me know about what happened with u and how every thing is going. Cheers Nalalos Dear all
i miss listening to ur stories it has been a long time since i saw any post, i know that every body seems to be busy but i would like to listen to ur news, i would like to tell u that me and my friend are fine and really he is so sweet as he doesnt make me feel that i am lonely, he is always supporting me even he is thousands miles away, i really miss him so much and i hope that i will work for us that he is away and we still feel tha we are together,
about u all let me know about what happened with u and how every thing is going.
Cheers Nalalos

]]> By: Linda http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-7/#comment-1548380 Linda Sat, 24 Jan 2009 12:40:58 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1548380 Hi Melody and everyone else that might need to look at this link. http://marriage.about.com/od/international/p/egypt.htm there is some interesting references at this site to answer questions and also links to other bits of useful information. xxox Hi Melody and everyone else that might need to look at this link.

http://marriage.about.com/od/international/p/egypt.htm

there is some interesting references at this site to answer questions and also links to other bits of useful information.

xxox

]]> By: MARTA http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-7/#comment-1548373 MARTA Sat, 24 Jan 2009 11:05:46 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1548373 Dear Melody, I feel very sorry for you and my advice is you look for a good lawyer who knows the law in egypt as you should be well prepared before to go there and know your rights as from the page i found she might get married once she 16 according to their law. so please look for legal advice befor you go there as this is what may save you and your daughter future life. then I would suggest tell your daughter that this is a first visit and that you are very much willing to invite him back. http://www.law.emory.edu/ifl/legal/egypt.htm I wish you all the best, Marta Dear Melody,

I feel very sorry for you and my advice is you look for a good lawyer who knows the law in egypt as you should be well prepared before to go there and know your rights as from the page i found she might get married once she 16 according to their law.
so please look for legal advice befor you go there as this is what may save you and your daughter future life.
then I would suggest tell your daughter that this is a first visit and that you are very much willing to invite him back.

http://www.law.emory.edu/ifl/legal/egypt.htm

I wish you all the best,
Marta

]]> By: MARTA http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-7/#comment-1548368 MARTA Sat, 24 Jan 2009 10:41:38 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1548368 Dear Nalalos, thank you very much for your help and advise it mean really a lot to me, I have spoken with my mum and she allowed me to go as well (though I'm 27 I still listen to her or maybe just respect her opinion ) to have a look and see on my own what kind of person he is ( and if it will be worth to give a go to stay on boyfriend girlfrien relation)and if this what he will show me is the life I really want. then I would love to meet with you as well please tell me where do you live maybe we could have a chance for little get together ( this my prive email menahan21@yahoo.co.uk if you would like to stay in touch with me) best regards, Marta Dear Nalalos,

thank you very much for your help and advise it mean really a lot to me, I have spoken with my mum and she allowed me to go as well (though I’m 27 I still listen to her or maybe just respect her opinion ) to have a look and see on my own what kind of person he is ( and if it will be worth to give a go to stay on boyfriend girlfrien relation)and if this what he will show me is the life I really want.
then I would love to meet with you as well please tell me where do you live maybe we could have a chance for little get together ( this my prive email menahan21@yahoo.co.uk if you would like to stay in touch with me)
best regards,
Marta

]]> By: Linda http://globalvoicesonline.org/2008/06/13/walk-like-an-egyptian-marry-like-an-egyptian/comment-page-7/#comment-1548141 Linda Thu, 22 Jan 2009 22:28:04 +0000 http://globalvoicesonline.org/?p=45383#comment-1548141 oh my, the very fact he mentions an 'Orfi' is a bit scary! no way, this is the deal that many women get sucked into by really awful married men, They, the married man, use their right to marry a second time, and use this to visit their lady friends legally in their homes, and probably without having to tell their poor wife anything at all!! As someone mentioned above, while Egyptians can't book into a hotel room with a member of the opposite sex unless they are married, renting an appartment can also be very difficult if you don't have paperwork. So some very lonely ladies who think this is a way to be with the man they legitamately love, sign the Orfi and the useless married man, can have his wife at home and play around too, 'legally' so to speak. OOOOO this kid has no idea already, I think your girl really needs to come and see for herself and you are amazing to be coming along to stand by her and catch her fall. You really are a wonderful mum. oh my, the very fact he mentions an ‘Orfi’ is a bit scary! no way, this is the deal that many women get sucked into by really awful married men, They, the married man, use their right to marry a second time, and use this to visit their lady friends legally in their homes, and probably without having to tell their poor wife anything at all!! As someone mentioned above, while Egyptians can’t book into a hotel room with a member of the opposite sex unless they are married, renting an appartment can also be very difficult if you don’t have paperwork. So some very lonely ladies who think this is a way to be with the man they legitamately love, sign the Orfi and the useless married man, can have his wife at home and play around too, ‘legally’ so to speak. OOOOO this kid has no idea already, I think your girl really needs to come and see for herself and you are amazing to be coming along to stand by her and catch her fall. You really are a wonderful mum.

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